Do You Know How Long Men Want To Date Before They Define Relationship?
One of the most common questions men and women ask is, how long can people date before they officially becoming or known as boyfriend and girlfriend?
Out of curiosity to know about this, one user on Reddit asking the question: “Something I never understood, how long do couples normally wait before being exclusive or labelling the relationship?”
Here’s what 8 men think about how long to date before becoming boyfriend and girlfriend:
1. Only become exclusive when it stops feeling corny.
“My wife still gives me [a tough time] about how, back when we were dating, we’d been dating for like two months and finally she was like, ‘So are we boyfriend and girlfriend or what?’ I wasn’t super experienced at dating, but even then asking her, ‘Do you want to be my girlfriend?’ I felt really dumb and corny.
I just assumed once a person was outside of high school that people just assumed these titles once they’d been together a certain amount of time.” – Nick, 38
2. It depends on who you ask.
“If you ask me and my wife when our relationship started, you’ll get July from me and December from her! I just thought it was on when we saw each other every day and stuff.” – Ulisses, 42
3. Only move forward once you become a 24/7 item.
“[When] we were at a point where we were hanging out literally every day when we weren’t working.” – Andre, 31
4. Exclusivity is just a myth.
“This whole idea of ‘when to be exclusive’ is made up by the people going to college thinking that [dating] multiple people at once is somehow equated to being an adult.” – Ransford, 28
5. When you’ve discussed it and decided together, make the jump.
“Date as many people as you want, and if that number is one, that’s absolutely fine, but it’s also not fair to expect the same from the other person until you’ve had a conversation about it.” – Olive, 25
6. Become exclusive right from the start.
“I would never start a relationship with someone who was still dating other people. Tells me right away that you’re not really interested, I’m just entertainment until something better comes along.” – Philip, 36
7. When you’re no longer interested in anyone else, it’s a sign.
“I think it really depends on the person! Every time I’ve ever dated anyone that I’ve liked, I have a pretty much-lost interest in talking to anyone else, even if we hadn’t officially labelled ourselves ‘exclusive’.” – Fred, 30
8. If it suits your personal style, go for it.
“Everyone has their own style of dating. Personally, although I dated quite a few people when I was single, I always made sure to end things with one person before dating the next, or would make sure my partners were aware of our non-exclusivity/exclusivity status before I went on dates with other people or had one-night stands.
Dating is strange, and I don’t understand why you would not talk about your dating preferences right from the start. I always did, although my friends said it was weird to state it so quickly.” – Darren, 40