SINGLE LADIES! HERE IS HOW TO (NOT) GET A MAN
Singles today go about complaining about the lack of available partners. This can be as a result of the mentality we have when seeking for love, which in truth most times is solely – to capture by all means. This to me is the wrong notion to have. However, that thing that will cause for a more successful relationship is inside of you – look inward, find and upgrade yourself so that others of your own kind will be attracted to you.
I will advise anyone who wants to find a soulmate to follow these three steps:
KNOW THYSELF: Women who are willing to hide or detach from their real selves in order to bag a man often seem to believe that the right guy will give them a sense of identity and self-confidence. This is backward. Looking for love before developing a strong sense of self is like trying to find the mate of a shoe you’ve never seen. Try exploring your own nature: Write down your favorite foods or colors or songs or books or sports. Visit a therapist. Embark on a voyage of self-discovery for its own sake and because it is on that journey that you are likely to bump into the perfect traveling companion.
2. VALUE THYSELF: Most single ladies i know have been told to reduce their overall standards, be less picky and ‘just go with the flow’ with the men they meet. This is wrong, I suggest that you should be pickier, less accepting and more committed to the “bad attitude” that will make you seek people who are extraordinary in the same way you are. You can be courteous to the men that don’t appeal to you but please don’t waste your time with them. The few people who share your most exceptional characteristics are your tribe, the population that is most likely to contain your heart’s partner.
And 3. ENGAGE THYSELF: If you want to attract a partner, identify what you love to do, and do it—a lot. Involved, busy people really are more attractive, so if you want to get engaged to your soul mate, start by being engaged in activities that fascinate you—especially those that have nothing to do with dating and that make you forget to go love hunting.