Most Marriages started as love affairs, young ones grew so deeply they feel they cannot live without each other hence they get married, but tragically, most couples do leave the Altar on their wedding day leaving love behind on the altar or how can you explain a situation whereby love birds of three months ago, are now sworn enemies in their young marriage?
One of the major complaints I heard from young couples are:
“Our love died”
“We just fell out of love”
“Our love has gone sour”
“We can’t just love each other again”
“Maybe we didn’t love each other in the first instance”
“This marriage is a mistake” etc
All these are lies, let me tell you the truth of what happened in your marriage, YOU FAIL TO NURTURE LOVE, Love did not die, if you say it dies, then it did not commit suicide, it was murdered by you guys because you did not manage it well.
HOW TO NURTURE YOUR MARRIAGE
If preserving Love in that marriage is your aim, then this is how to do it.
THINK LOVE: Think love, believe in love, think how to love your spouse creatively, think of what you can do to love your wife or Husband in the way he or she will feel loved, allow love to fill your heart because the spouse you have is a prayer point for another. Therefore, celebrate the one you have with full acceptance
TALK LOVE: Talking to and with your spouse with respect and honour will increase love & intimacy, find it easy to gist, jest and talk deeply. Talk out your differences and settle them instead of fighting about them because we have voiced out there are waiting to talk error into your spouse. Also, remember to say I love you regularly, it is a reminder to your spouse that you still care and have feelings and deep affection for him or her
PLAY TOGETHER: Lovers do play together, make your home a playing centre not a boxing ring, play like babies, be Childlike, playing together will increase love for each other. Note that you can easily remember old friends that you use to play together than the ones you worked together with because playing together we bond in love
TIME: spend quality time together. You can’t build great Marriage when you are never at home. Be together playing, talking and connecting that is how to manage love in your marriage.
PRAY TOGETHER: Couples that pray together stays together, hold hands to pray, hug each other to pray. Pray for each other, pray with each other, it strengthens your bond and makes your Union solid especially in a time like this.
LAUGH: Experts says Couples who spend at least 10 minutes a day laughing together are more likely to have a stronger relationship. So go ahead laugh together it strengthens your union.
RELAX TOGETHER: Find time to relax together, no work, no labour. Rest together, give room for recreation, all works and no rest makes marriage a boring one. Your health is paramount at this level.
LOOK AT EACH OTHER EYES: Experts says married couples hardly look at each other’s eyes, it is funny to note this but that is the truth.
KISS REGULARLY: Kissing is a way to tell your spouse I love you so kiss regularly
HUG REGULARLY: Hug is good, when you give one, you receive one. It is fantastic, it builds a great marriage and makes your home better, experts even says it is good for your health, make it part of your marriage.
MAKE LOVE: yes make love, don’t just have sex, make love. Lovemaking means having sex in loving, tantalizing and terrific ways that make both parties enjoy it and look forward to more of it.
Don’t allow sex to be difficult, boring, uninteresting but rather make it a joyful experience that helps to join your body and soul with your spouse. So make love regularly, don’t fight about it but make it an enjoyable experience.
© Bisi Adewale
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