My Ex-girlfriend Is Using The Baby She Born For Me To Disturb My Marriage, What Should I do?

I was in a serious relationship with my ex-girlfriend Nneka six years ago. She comes from a prosperous household. I was planning my life at the time, and because I came from a poor family, I couldn’t originally propose to her. Though, because she loved me, our love grew even stronger.

Nneka became pregnant two years later. The news of the pregnancy devastated my heart since I was not prepared to care for the child who would be born. Nneka’s parents were furious that I had placed their daughter in a family situation when I didn’t have a way to support her. Nneka was brought to her grandmother in the village as a kind of punishment and, more importantly, to keep me from seeing her.

In light of this, I went to see her parents with my relatives to apologize and explain their daughter’s situation, but I was bluffed, and the meeting ended in a deadlock. Nneka’s father stayed firm in his beliefs. He gave me a severe warning not to return to his complex or have anything to do with his daughter in the future.

I felt terrible and went home with my family, who were unhappy with Nneka’s father’s stance on the topic. I tried everything I could to speak with Nneka, but it was all in vain. I later learned that her father had changed her phone number, and because I couldn’t get her new number, we went nearly a year without seeing or hearing from each other.

To be honest, I adored my ex-girlfriend, and she adores me as well. I expected her to take into account the fact that we loved each other despite our vastly different backgrounds. Without my awareness, Nneka gave birth to our lovely baby. It took me a long time to accept the forced separation from my heart’s love.

When the incident occurred, I was in my 300 Level at Lagos State University. Following my university studies, I completed my National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) in Enugu State. I had no idea when I’d see Nneka again until that fateful day. It happened during our graduation ceremony. I followed my coworkers, who had planned a large celebration to commemorate our one-year national service.

I was out with my fiancée, Franca, enjoying ourselves at a restaurant one evening when Nneka stepped in. She was the one who recognized me and reached out to me. Her beauty was still there, and she was with a small girl who reminded me so much of my daughter that I didn’t need anyone to tell me it was her. We exchanged pleasantries, and I had to introduce Franca to her while we were conversing. In her eyes, I saw a tremendous betrayal.

I married my fiancée Franka two years after leaving the Eastern portion of the country, and we are now happily married. But the difficulty began when Nneka arrived at my place one day with the girl she had given birth to for me. I told my wife everything about my relationship with Nneka at that point.

Nneka is now using my daughter, whom she gave birth to, to sabotage my marriage since she knows how much I love her. What am I supposed to do now?

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