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    Can You Marry When You Are Not Financially Strong?

    Marry When You Are Not Financially Strong

    I recall the first time I met Kemi. She is the type of lady that every man would want as a wife. She was the epitome of beauty, as well as clever and accommodating.

    I didn’t have enough money to be married in time. I struggled to get a university scholarship because I came from a low-income family. When I met her, I was in my 300 level. She was already keen to settle down when I was unable to do so due to financial restraints.

    She put a lot of pressure on us to start arranging our wedding. I can’t tell you how many times she asked me when I was going to marry. I informed her that she could go her own way if she couldn’t wait for me to be financially rooted. Kemi was displeased. I was only playing games with her, she thought. She advised me not to use money as an excuse for not marrying.

    My stand did not sit well with Kemi. She left me when she discovered I really meant it and stayed firm in my refusal to wait till I had enough money to settle down. After a year, she called to tell me that she had married. I was devastated, but because there was nothing I could do about it, I let go of her.

    As a young man, don’t let anyone, married or not, convince you that money doesn’t matter in a marriage. The truth is that money fixes more than half of the difficulties in marriage, particularly in Nigeria.

    Will those folks come to your aid when you face financial difficulties if you don’t have money and opt to marry out of pressure? Obviously,  not. Instead, they will be the folks who laugh at your wretched life, and if your wife is bad, she will abandon you for someone who can take good care of her.

    To have money does not necessarily imply being a millionaire or rolling in cash, but rather having the financial capacity to provide the fundamental necessities of life, including indulgences.

    Observe closely any home where the man commands the most respect; he is living up to his responsibilities as a man. Any woman has little regard for a man who is unable to provide for his family. Don’t let anyone fool you. Because she is the head of the household, the girl who tells you today that she will use her money to run your home will become a tigress tomorrow.

    If you want to be respected, make sure you have a steady source of income that allows you to meet your fundamental needs at home.

    My recommendation is to avoid marrying if you are not financially secure. Do you agree with me?

    Read Also: 5 Ways To Figure Out If A Lady Loves You

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    • #19154
      Bernard
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      i’m sorry i cant, i no come this world to suffer in marriage besides i cant put my kids in the same condition in which i grew up in, everything must set before marriage

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    • #19163
      Ray
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      Like I always say, marriage is a huge responsibility. Nobody including your fiancee’ should force you into marriage when you are not okay financially.

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    • #19168
      Okey_14_boi
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      I would not advise any man to engage in doing this… It might seem all fairytale and love at the beginning but reality will dawn on you at certain point…

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      John Adeleke
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      well it depends on the prospects of the relationship and the plans both couples have for the future going forward, if all that is considered it makes the marriage worthwhile

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    • #19226
      Chichi
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      it might be a hard decision but if i love him so much, no wahala, we go hustle together

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    • #19234
      Aries
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      If the lady you want to marry is willing to support you, you can go ahead to get married, if not don’t go there. E get why.

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