How Long Do You Think Courtship Should Take Before Marriage?
Following the pathetic stories that have been trending on social media since last month, has broken my heart. The stories of prominent Nigerian celebrities’ breakups and marriages necessitate sober reflection.
It’s a recurring question, and I’m asking it again today because of a tragic event. Courtship is intended to assist couples in making a decision about their partner. Many of today’s troubled marriages have problems that predate marriages. They are the result of incompatible core values and flawed courtships: no shared core values, no soul searching, no seeking the face of God, just jump into marriage.
It is pointless, for example, to enter into a marriage with someone who means nothing to you or to whom you mean nothing. Celebrating your spouse does not imply that she or he is without flaws; rather, it means sifting through the flaws to find good reasons to celebrate her/him.
Of course, you don’t celebrate nothingness; you celebrate something. However, perception is very strong and important in addition to substance. We’ve all heard the expression “half full or half empty.” They literally mean the same thing, but they have vastly different connotations.
The crux of the issue is how long should you wait in court before answering this question? Unfortunately, there is no single answer, unlike in pure sciences, but as with many social phenomena. But, in my opinion, if you approach your courtship with the right mindset, you should be able to answer that question in no more than two years. What are your thoughts?
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