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    My name is Mrs Eunice, recently I lost my husband to the cold hand of death at the age of 39. The tragic event happened in the City of Lagos and the man being the only surviving child of his mother had no relatives that could follow the corpse to his Village except for a few friends and neighbours who volunteered to help out.

    My Husband and her Sister where Sneaked out of the Village in Anambra State when he was 4 years old when his father died aged 33, his Sister was 6 Year old at that time.

    My husband had never been to the Village since he was taken out of the Place as a Child, they all believe he and his Sister died as Children only my Husband’s Uncle is aware of their existence and he supported secretly.

    Last year his sister died, he decided to take the body to the Village against his Uncle counsel. His sickness started shortly after he returned to Lagos. We spent all our life savings on it, sold his uncompleted House at Mowe, sold his car, we were naked before he died

    I am fully aware of what could happen if I follow his Corpse to the Village with my Two Children and I was duly advised to stay back in the City by some People from his Village, in fact, his Uncle called me secretly that I should not come as they were all ready for me, so to avoid any trouble that could occur if I follow them as they will blame me for his death

    When the corpse arrived at the Village the elders and the entire Village gathered and addressed friends and neighbours who took it there. The experience wasn’t pleasant for them as they were scrutinized, interrogated and accused of killing their son.

    At the end of the day after waiting and begging for hours to burry the man, the town rejected the corpse and asked that they bring his wife and children before any further discussion on the burial.

    Friends and neighbours who accompanied the corpse requested to embalm it in a morgue in the Village, they emphatically refused with serious anger and fights that it would be an abomination to them.

    They had to locate a morgue in a nearby town and put the Corpse in there. For all of them, it was a horrible experience and wouldn’t be ready to go an extra mile again to protect themselves and their families too.

    I am in dilemma now, whether I should go or not, knowing fully well that my late husband’s only sibling died mysteriously a few months before the death came for my own husband. And the deceased narrated how terrible it was before they could be allowed to bury his only Sister as his Husband refused to follow them to the Village.

    The fear of unthinkable that could happen, if I show up is already killing me, I am still mourning and not happy that my late husband is yet to be buried in peace. The Uncle is still giving me some secret information and warned me not to come but the Village Elders are calling me to come with my Children by all means.
    My Husband warned on his sickbed not to go to the Village, I’ve seen him twice in my dream warning me not to go to the Village, at the same time I saw him crying in another dream that he has not been buried. What kind of life is mine, I am in the greatest confusion of my life I am just 33.

    Should I go to the Village against my Husband warning and the counsel of my Husband’s Uncle so that the Corpse can be buried, they insist I must come with my Children and that they will not attend to me if the Children are not there.
    Somebody please help me think, tell me what to do and please pray for me.

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    • #5113
      blossy
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      you better behave wisely and protect your life and the lives of these innocent children. please Don’t go.

      they will sort out the dead body themselves

       

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    • #5116
      Erhire Oboh
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      You better stay where you are for now , keep praying to God for his intervention on this matter and seek counsel from your church or professionals.

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    • #5127
      Sam P
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      <p style=”text-align: left;”>The righteous are BOLD as a LION.</p>
      My sister move in this Might ??

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    • #5131
      Kenneth
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      <p style=”text-align: left;”>Abeg… Stay back oo, don’t go</p>
      Let the dead bury itself

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

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    • #5133
      Ronkie babe
      Moderator

      She needs to be very careful

       

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    • #5139
      Victor
      Moderator

      Nigerians with this their bad belle , abeg, let her not go for the burial. It is better she remain alive to takecare of the heirs of the family

       

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    • #5140
      feranmi
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      let her talk to God, am very sure God will give her conviction on what to do. I sincerely felt for her oooooo

      it is well

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    • #5141
      O.S David
      Keymaster

      Don’t go ooo. Plead with your husband’s uncle to help you talk to the elders if he can. And if you must go make sure you go with your pastor(s)

      It is well with you

       

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    • #5142
      Inumidun
      Moderator

      Please, don’t go. Your late husband’s uncle knows better. Follow his instructions

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    • #5143
      Jayne
      Participant

      If you true love your life and that of your children, please don’t go. If it is possible, take your children and travel out of the country

       

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    • #5144
      Correct Segz
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      Madam if you truly value your life and that of your children do the right thing. Japa!

       

       

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    • #5182
      Gideon Dosu
      Keymaster

      That is why i hate this culture must i travel home for burial

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    • #5183
      Sulaimon Sule
      Participant

      If you go, just forget your children.They won’t allow them return with you.

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    • #5184
      Uche Ogbona
      Participant

      Don’t worry, the soul of your husband is resting already. They are just with the body. Leave the body for them.

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    • #5187
      FM
      Participant

      I understand your pain. I will suggest you go to court. Get a Lawyer, let’s take law to address the issue. God be with you and your children.

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    • #5188
      Christie
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      And if you can’t get a lawyer, approach a human right activist. She will put you through. Take your mind off it. Focus on your children for now.

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