See Reason Why Actor Femi Jacobs Gave For Not Wanting To Be Married
When making a list of talented actors in Nigeria, Femi Jacob is definitely on that list and for someone who isn’t just talented but super fine, it is expected that he would be in a serious relationship, if not married.
For some reasons, he isn’t in any serious relationship and he also isn’t ready to get into a serious relationship. When he was asked why he would rather remain single, he said;
“It is not just economics of marriage, it is the dynamics. Everybody has a dream in life. Some people have a business and they just want to make money. For me, marriage is a resting place; it is a place where you can scale your dream up to another level. I want to be at a particular level of settlement before I go into marriage.
Also, there is a space and time for everyone. I love the concept of love even though I am not a champion for it; I am not a champion for romance. If I was one, I would have been married at the age of 25. But I believe it is part of life and culture to an extent. I think love is beautiful. It is a beautiful thing to love someone and to be loved back by the same person.
“I think marriage should be a practical issue instead. It should be personal to everyone. I have been lucky; I have about six siblings who are all married. I have four elder siblings and two younger ones and they are all married. The pressure is a bit low because my father is no more alive and my mother has a lot of grandchildren to keep her busy. She still remembers me once in a while but I know how I evade the questions whenever she raises them up.
It is every parent’s dream to cuddle their grandchildren but we should bear the responsibility for that dream. I don’t think parents should put pressure on their kids when it comes to marriage especially when they are not ready for it because that would be counterproductive at the end of the day.
“As you can see, the rate of divorce is high and those that are not divorced are separated. We are basically just patching the institution and that is because it is filled with the people who are not ready for that space. Marriage is quite intense and it is not something you should do without critical intention. It is not something you should force; you have to be ready for it.”
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Speaking about his growing up and background, Femi Jacobs said
“I am from a polygamous family. I was one child out of a dozen or more roaming around a house in Ife, Osun State. I am the fifth child of my mother, who had seven. If I had lived a life that was below par no one would have blamed me. I wrote about this at the beginning of my book, Rise. I left home at 8 to live with my uncle. It opened up a new chapter for me.
Leaving home at that age, taught me self-reliance and creativity. I was then the eldest of his kids. He had four children. I had to learn how to grow up very fast and started contributing for us to have survived. I hawked wares, engaged in farming, and worked as a waiter at his wife’s bar among others.”
Do you think Femi Jacobs has a valid reason for being single?