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    Okey_14_boi
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    Do you regret being a mother? – reactions

    It’s not something most women would want to incline to the fact is that motherhood is a difficult phase in a woman’s life. When my sister had her first child, she could only entrust me about how unexcited she was about the whole thing, she even insisted she wasn’t ready to see the baby for a while and everyone except me thought was just titred.

    Do you regret being a mother?
    Do you regret being a mother?

    I know people expect a mother to be over the tip when it came to motherhood but when you get close to some moithers the situation or the story isn’t always what you’ll expect.

    On Mother’s Day, I narrated this ordeal with several women in my discussion group and also encouraged other women to do the same — to share forbidden and unspoken stories about the overlooked reality of bearing and raising children.

    Here are some reactions we got from mothers about the mental and psychological effects of motherhood and the pressure of been called “Mom.”

    • “It’s like I just threw my life away in exchange of been called mama, only if I knew that it’ll such a high level of commitment I would have taken it all back. These days I find myself been envious of women who don’t have children. But I love my daughter so much, and I pray for the grace to be a good mother to her, but it’s hard I tell you, very hard.”—Linda from Iyana-Ipaja

     

    • “I make little money from my mediocre job, it’s barely enough for me and the twins to feed, say less about school fees and other bills. It was supposed to be a wonderful moment like Nollywood movies but it’s far from it. I clean too much vomit, poop and they cry always. I wish I never met my ex, who’s the father of the twins.”—Rebecca from ABJ

     

    • “Isolated, lonely and discarded that’s how I feel. People rarely speak to me whenever they see me with the kids, they are wow, are those your kids, then the attention goes to my daughters. People think I’m too old and outdated to be involved in certain things just because I am a mother, I am just 23 for God’s sake. I try to read the bible and books for solace because the emotional stress is too much on me, its crushing me.”—Alice Mandell (Facebook)

     

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    • “I sometimes I ask my husband if we made a mistake. It took me at least a month and the smile on my baby’s face after he’s been fed for me to approach normalcy. My husband ‘Fred’ has always been there for us both, without him, I don’t know what I would have done.”-Ife from Port Harcourt. 

     

    • “Prince is now 17, a strong handsome and intelligent young man. He even took a job to assist me and this sister in the house bills. Every time he askes if I was alright or pays the electricity bill, it reminds me of his birth and how far we’ve come. I would gladly be his mother in several lives to come.” – Maria from Ghana.

    What do you think about these women? What is your perspective on motherhood? Share your story with us in the comment section?

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    • #17678
      Okey_14_boi
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      I am not a woman neither have I gotten a child of my own…so I can’t say

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    • #17691
      Nne
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      It is true that many a woman will not want to bear children considering the huge responsibility of child’s bearing, worst off if her husband is not supportive. On the whole, there is joy in motherhood.

      For me, no regret…

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    • #17713
      Bernard
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      my mother never regretted been a mother, i try to make her happy every day even when we sometimes disagree we always get back together

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    • #17737
      Chichi
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      God bless all the women all over the world, only God can repay our good deeds and responsibility

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    • #17739
      Tolu
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      Not at all

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    • #17765
      John Adeleke
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      hmm the article opened my eyes to all that the female gender goes through after child birth, wish the men can more involved in their lives

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    • #17790
      Kufekpo
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      Since I am not a woman, I have nothing to say, but just here to read people’s comments.

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    • #17806
      Ray
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      This post doesn’t concern me.

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