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    Read What A Divorced Single Mother Wrote About Her Marriage Experience

    Divorced Single Mother

    To state the fact, there is no perfect marriage. For those of you, who have witnessed a beautiful home and marriage,  you may be wondering what is the secret of maintaining such a blissful marriage. Listen, the best thing you can do to have such a home is to protect your marriage. Don’t allow anybody to interfering in your marriage

    Below is a thought-provoking note was written by a divorced single mother to all women advising them to keep their marriage.

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    I am writing to you in order to make someone understand that it’s good to appreciate our partners despite their flaws.

    I am 32 years of age. My ex-husband and I dated for 6 years. We were best of friends. I waited until he completed college and started work.

    My family and his family then met. We got married and had a son. (7 years old now). My husband was short-tempered at times but our problems started when I wanted to make him feel he couldn’t control me.

    Every time we argued, I would pack my bags, go to my family and explain. My sisters would phone my husband and shout at him. If he was controlling me I would always dare him that if he wished, he could divorce me.

    I never wanted a divorce. I just had pride and I never wanted to look like a loose woman in his eyes. One day I pushed him so hard that for the first time he beat me and locked me outside.

    I went to my family; my family took him to the police, every time I looked like I was being abused! But to be honest, I used to abuse my husband emotionally.

    He was arrested and detained. I was asked by his family to withdraw the case. I felt that what I was doing was wrong. My husband was never a violent man, he did what he did because I pushed him to the wall of which he openly knelt down and apologized.

    I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled. After three months, I packed my bags after a small issue and he remained alone.

    After two days, I received a call that he was in the hospital. My family told me that I shouldn’t go there because it would look like I was begging him and my sisters believed he was feigning the illness.

    All this time, people felt sorry for me like I was the one being abused. He spent a week in the hospital, after he came out, I just received a divorce summons. I wanted to say no to divorce, but because I felt this pride, I wanted him to change his mind and beg me.

    I called him and said he would get the divorce because I lived like I was in hell. When we went to court, I wanted to make him pay, so I told the court that I needed his properties to be shared. To my surprise he openly told the court that whatever he and I acquired together should be given to me, all he wanted was divorce.

    We were divorced in 2009 July. Now, my husband is married, whilst l am here wasted! My family members are gossiping about me. I depend on what my ex-husband gives to my son for survival.

    I know I wasted my marriage. I am here telling all wives that they should be careful how they get advice.

    Don’t be cheated, don’t entertain family interference in your marriage my dear reader. Even my young sisters are much more respected than I. Those who encouraged me to get divorced are always teasing and bad mouthing me.

    Please ladies, be vigilant in your marriage. I thought it wise to share my story to save your marriage.

    There is no benefit in pride for nothing.

    What advice would you add to this? Let’s hear your thought in the comment box

    Read Also: Divorce: What A Woman Asks Her Husband To Return Will Shock

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    • #14512
      Ray
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      I can read the woman’s mind. She is full of pain. ”Had I know…”

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    • #14513
      Fredo
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      How I wish other women will read this post and learn some few things from the post. Discussing your marital issues  with  third party is bad. This and many other things contribute to broken marriages.

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    • #14515
      Nne
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      The woman’s note is filled with pensive mood. I feel for her  sha…

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