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last updated by Femi 1 year ago
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    Ronkie babe
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    CAN I MARRY THIS 50-YEAR-OLD MAN?

    CAN I MARRY THIS 50-YEAR-OLD MAN?

    Hi,

    Admin, please keep me anonymous

    I am a single mom to my 3-years-old son and 31-years-old.

    I met a man (widower) he just clocked 50 years last month, he has an 8-years-old daughter. His wife died of childbirth 4 years ago and he has not remarried which I confirmed from close friends and it’s true.

    He made his intentions known to me that it’s marriage and not a relationship he wants. I have been taking my time to study him by going closer to him and his daughter because both of them are together, he has been taking care of her right from when she was 4 years when she lost her mom, some weekends I visit them along with my son and both of them are getting along well as kids.
    Now, I am not in any relationship and let me be sincere initially I wanted a younger person, but having tried some of the younger men they ain’t serious, so I had to change my mindset and stay single.

    I’ve decided to give this man a chance and so far he is good. Now, where I need help is how to tell my parents, how do I convince them about this man that is older than me?

    My mom will be visiting me tomorrow and I wish I tell her, but I really don’t know how to put it. This is because as their (parents) only girl, they wish I get someone not too old for me, how do I handle this?

    I mean CAN I MARRY THIS 50-YEAR-OLD MAN?

     

     

    Also see this:  Help: My one-year-old marriage is about to crash and I am the problem

     

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    • #12298
      Correct Segz
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      Dear,

      Your happiness matters. I think your parents should even be thanking God that there is a man who wants to marry their single mother daughter.

      Be bold dear

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    • #12302
      Family Lifers
      Keymaster

      There is nothing bad marrying the man, but you will definitely have some issues with baba’s children. Bcos they will think you’l are there bcos of baba’s inheritance. Please prepare your Mind ahead. Show them love genuinely couple with your prayer all shall be well.

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    • #12303
      Jayne
      Participant

      Do people still care about their parents’ opinion before showing their life partner.

      Well, this is Africa.

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    • #12310
      Fredo
      Participant

      The question I will like to ask is, do you love the man? If your answer is in the affirmative, go ahead and marry him irrespective of the wide gap in age.

      Your happiness should be your paramount not what people will say. Remember, if you marry a guy who is younger than you, people will still talk.

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    • #12312
      Christie
      Participant

      50 years old man? that means you might still become a widow again, these days that people don’t grow old.

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    • #12313
      Sulaimon Sule
      Participant

      Christie! Are you god? that knows when the man dies. My sister, go ahead, you are fortunate. Don’t mind christie

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    • #12314
      Christie
      Participant

      I am not god, but I’ve taken my statistics. You will hardly see a man older than 70 years nowadays. So you want her to become a widow again after 20 years.

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    • #12315
      Uche Ogbona
      Participant

      Hmn! Your parents know the risk in marrying an aged man. If you cannot convince your parent, then wait for your time.

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    • #12316
      Sulaimon Sule
      Participant

      This Christie get bad mind. What if the woman dies before him. Abi na only men statistics you take?!!!

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    • #12317
      Inumidun
      Moderator

      Christie, yes, we are waiting for the statistics of women. My sister go ahead

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    • #12318
      Sulaimon Sule
      Participant

      Opportunity comes but once in a while. My sister grab your copy now!!!

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    • #12319
      FM
      Participant

      My dear sister, make sure you take the man to a professional marriage counselor who could discover if the man is pretending or not. Because men can pretend to be nice when looking for something

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    • #12320
      Christie
      Participant

      FM Thank you, that is another major step you should take. You cannot detect on your own, you need a professional to interrogate both of you. There is nothing wrong being a single mother.

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    • #12321
      Uche Ogbona
      Participant

      Christie Yes that you are single mother doesn’t depreciate your value, don’t be in a hurry to take this critical decision

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    • #12322
      Sulaimon Sule
      Participant

      So, na the man’s value depreciate. You guys are not talking about time. If the man leaves, when will another honest man come?

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    • #12323
      Christie
      Participant

      Sulaimon I have known you to be girigiri (hurry hurry) guy. The God that brought this man will bring another if this one is not fit for her. Haba!

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    • #12324
      Uche Ogbona
      Participant

      Why hurry, when there are still uncountable men out there both single guys and single fathers.

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    • #12325
      Christie
      Participant

      Uche Ogbona  I seeeeee! this is the reason we have so many unmarried ladies. They are looking for the right man

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    • #12326
      Christie
      Participant

      FM, Keep waiting for the statistics. It’s my personal statistics after a solid research. you can take your survey and post it here for us

       

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    • #12327
      FM
      Participant

      Patience is the key here

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    • #12328
      Inumidun
      Moderator

      But if you can convince your parent to give him a chance

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    • #12329
      Uche Ogbona
      Participant

      Inumidun, how does a lady give a man a chance. I don’t understand

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    • #12330
      Christie
      Participant

      Inumidun, Me too, I don’t understand o. They are already friends, so what type of chance is that again

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    • #12331
      Uche Ogbona
      Participant

      I tire o. Until the man sleeps with her abi wetin?

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    • #12332
      Inumidun
      Moderator

      Well, you can give a man a chance without sleeping with him. If he’s in a hurry to sleep with you, then I doubt lis feelings

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    • #12333
      Sulaimon Sule
      Participant

      Lol! Abeg give him a chance. Marriage counselor has spoken.

       

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    • #12334
      FM
      Participant

      Inumidun, But once you accept to marry a man, you cannot resist him from sleeping with you. So what chance again

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    • #12335
      Inumidun
      Moderator

      Don’t misunderstand me. You can accept a man’s proposal and start a courtship. Accepting proposal is not equal to marrying him. If he misbehave, you can breakup fast fast

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    • #12336
      Sulaimon Sule
      Participant

      Inumidun, Hmnnnn I think I get your point now

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    • #12337
      Christie
      Participant

      Ok o! My sister, be very careful o. I don’t even trust these men out there

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    • #12338
      Christie
      Participant

      Chiristie, You talk like a feminist

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    • #12339
      Uche Ogbona
      Participant

      This is not feminism matter, we need to advice like our sister and that is what Christie is doing

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    • #12340
      Sulaimon Sule
      Participant

      Uche Ogbona, So, we guys have been advising her like a mother. Time wait for no body. I say again, Grab your copy now!!!

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    • #12341
      FM
      Participant

      Sulaimon, Lols!!!

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    • #12342
      Christie
      Participant

      Copies no dey finish na

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    • #12343
      Uche Ogbona
      Participant

      Yes o, copies plenty full ground, original copies sef

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    • #12344
      Inumidun
      Moderator

      Sha make sure you don’t take pirated copy for original

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    • #12345
      Femi
      Participant

      Age difference shouldn’t be an obstacle. Give yourself brain

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