AM STILL CRAZILY IN LOVE WITH MY EX, HOW DO I SAVE MY MARRIAGE.

I got married 5 years ago. There is this particular man I was dating even before I met my husband, I couldn’t marry him because he was a married man. My family knew about our relationship, especially my mom. I still love this man even while am married, I see him as a perfect man. I tried all my possible best to stop and control this feelings but I couldn’t just help it. We (the man & I)  have fought so many times that we vow never to talk to each other again, but yet the bond gets stronger every day.
My husband is a pastor, I told him to at least adjust a bit,  by doing what the guy is doing, if that can help me fall out of love for him… For instance, I love men with beards… But he (hubby) insisted he can’t keep them.  This got me frustrated…. I don’t wanna cheat in my marriage, but hubby keep pushing me to do so.
Kindly advice what I can do in this kind of matter please. I still love my ex so very much that I can hardly do without him.

More anointing in Jesus name Amen