5 MAJOR SIGNS YOU’RE NOT READY FOR MARRIAGE
Marriage is a huge step to take in your life. There’s no limit on marriage; when you’re ready, you are ready. However, there are a lot of people who just don’t know when it’s not their time to be ready. You can consider your lack of experience in the world, enjoying selfish moments, going to school and working, or getting yourself together, financially. The factors that may point to why you may not be ready for marriage, are wide and direct. We’re here to help with five signs that you may not be ready for marriage – not yet, anyway.
1. YOU’RE SELFISH
Marriage requires you to give and take from your partner. Of course, we’re all ready to take, but are we ready to give? When we’re stuck in our selfish ways, giving can feel like a burden at times. Catering to our own needs feels way more important than someone else’s. But there’s a problem with that when you’re preparing yourself to get married. Learn to become selfless, instead of selfish. Give and take should be a vital factor in your marriage.
2. YOU’RE NOT READY TO GIVE UP THE PLAYING FIELD
Marriage requires commitment and time; both require a lot of patience and honesty. But let’s face it. If you feel the need to still mingle outside of what you have or want to have with someone, marriage is not for you, yet. There’s nothing wrong with having a social life that boasts with the single life, but don’t bring it into a marriage.
3. YOU HAVE EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE
Heading into a marriage with emotional luggage is something you do not want to bring into your marriage plane. Having unresolved issues and emotions with your ex-lover should be resolved before tieing the knot with another. Yes, it’s possible to still work through these problems while in your marriage, but do your best to get rid of as much negative luggage as you can before tying the knot.
4. HIDDEN SECRETS
If you’re hiding a secret, marriage is not for you at the moment. Before getting married, you should sit down with your partner and air out everything. You wouldn’t want your partner keeping things from you, so they don’t deserve to be kept in the dark over things about you, either.
5. It’s just cold feet,” your friends will tell you before your arrival at the alter. But, what if it’s not cold feet? It’s possible that your second doubts are meant to be given a second thought when considering if marriage is now for you. It’s better to be safe than sorry, so weigh your options well. Remember: Our instincts are usually correct and having second thoughts is an instinct.