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    In a relationship, there are several features to take into consideration if that relationship will lead to marriage and the same way there are some factors will pop up as red flag in a relationship and with these is a piece of evidence that the relationship cannot go far. Below are some of the measures of red flags in relations that need to critically examine if the relationship will continue or not.

    1.You Ignored a Deal Breaker at the Beginning

    One surefire way to set your relationship up to fail? Overlooking a major red flag right from the start. People ignore their ‘deal breakers’ in relationships for many reasons. Sometimes, we are afraid of the truth because finding out the truth may lead to us having to make a change. But the truth is, if you’ve always wanted kids and your partner doesn’t and you’ve known it all along, it’s better to cut the cord now and save yourself the pain later.

    2. You Can’t Remember the Positives

    Every relationship has tough times, but if when you think about how your relationship began, it’s difficult to remember the “good times” you had together because it is buried under your current conflict and emotional pain in the relationship, it’s likely a sign that things could be over.

    3. Your Values Just Don’t Line Up

    Family, money, and religion are tough to change your views on. “People are attracted to each other for all kinds of reasons, and sometimes opposites do indeed attract, But if you’re going to build a solid and lasting relationship with an intimate partner, your core values must be aligned. If you’re not on the same page and aren’t able to find a common ground, the relationship isn’t likely to stand the test of time.”

    4. Disagreements Turn Into Conflicts

    Conflict is normal in relationships, but how you resolve it can be either bonding or destructive, If you handle conflict consistently in a destructive manner—like screaming, interrupting, yelling or calling your partner names, studies show that you are more than twice as likely to divorce or breakup over time.

    5.You Don’t Look Forward to Coming Home

    There is no bigger tell-tail sign that a relationship is doomed if you avoid coming home at night, If you don’t want to see your partner or be with him or her, you have already begun the break-up process in a passive way.

    6. You both Always Play the Blame Game

    Sometimes, mishaps are no one’s fault, but if you always find yourself feeling that it’s your partner’s fault or vice versa, something’s wrong. Of course. If this continues such a relationship will soon go off.

    7. You Can’t Agree on Where to Live

    People want to live in certain places. Some can make long-distance work when they can’t agree about where to live, but generally, this drives partners apart.

    8. You’re Keeping Secrets

    If you’re withholding truths and genuine information from your partner, it’s a signal that the relationship is moving toward a breakup. There is a difference between secrecy and privacy It’s okay and healthy to have privacy, but keeping secrets can be a recipe for disaster.”

    9 Failing to Help When need be

    One way of identifying who you feel emotionally close to is by asking yourself whom you would turn to for assistance and help in a stressful situation, like the loss of a job. “An unhealthy relationship is one where you would prefer to get help from anyone but your partner,” she explains. “Your partner doesn’t have to be the only one you turn to in troubled times, but you should want to go to your partner for support.”

    10 You Don’t Trust Each Other Or one of you doesn’t trust the other.

    While trust can be repaired, it is incredibly difficult and takes two very committed individuals. If you always feel the urge to check your partner’s phone or constantly wonder if what they’re actually doing is different from what they said they were doing, then there is a fear of break up in that relationship.

    11 Every Conversation Feels Like Nagging

    Pay attention to how you talk to each other in a relationship. If you feel that you’re not really hearing each other and that every request or question feels like one of you is being pestered or criticized, that’s a major red flag.

    12You Can’t Have Uncomfortable Conversations

    “You’ve probably heard this before, but it bears repeating: communication is essential to a healthy relationship,” Fournier says. “Some of the problems that I see tear relationships apart have to do with money, sex, and differing definitions of monogamy. Though these are difficult issues to navigate, they can almost always be reconciled if both partners are willing to talk through them openly, vulnerably, and honestly. If you can’t or aren’t willing to keep the communication going, the relationship is doomed.”

    13You Never Disagree

    Fighting unfairly is bad, but never having any conflict is also a pretty big sign that something is amiss. Healthy partnerships will bring up disagreements, which will get worked through together. If you never have any disagreements, it’s likely because one or the other (or both) of you are avoiding discussing things that make you uncomfortable, which leads to a storm brewing under the surface.”

    14There’s No Interest In Meeting Each Other’s Needs

    When a partner does not show interest in his or her mate’s needs and desires, the relationship is on rocky ground

    15 One of You Is Putting in All The Work

    “Relationships shift and grow and evolve as people shift and grow and evolve,” notes Pathak. If one partner is doing the work to grow into a better version of themselves and the other partner is not, the relationship is likely over.” What’s more, if one partner is really trying to make the relationship work and the other isn’t, the effort can end up wasted.


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