12 WAYS TO CHOOSE SPOUSES FOR YOUR CHILDREN
Can you choose a spouse for your Children? Yes, you can, but not the way you think it to be. It’s not by looking for a girl in your church or neighborhood and say this is the person you must married, not at all, making that final decision of whom to marry is in the hands of your Child base on divine direction and guidance from the lord and total conviction of the Child. If you try to force your child to marry anyone it will meet stiff resistance from the Child
Don’t ever think that whosoever your Child marries is non of your Business, your Children marriage will affect you in ao many ways, whosoever they marry will become your son and daughter in law and will give birth to your grandchildren.
Whether your Children will continue in righteousness will also depend on whoever they marry, so you must be deeply involved as your Child get married (please get a copy of our book Titled: PARENTING ADULT CHILDREN)
You can influence your Children’s decision of who to marry in so many ways. I will be opening your eyes to some of them here:
PRAY FOR AND WITH THEM
Prayer is your greatest way of influence the life of an Adult Child. Your prayer for their Marital choice should start early enough in fact it may start as soon as they are conceived.
Pray that they will not marry the enemy of the lord
Pray that they will not marry their enemy
Pray that they will not marry your enemy
Pray to God to order their steps
Pray against demonic influence in their choice
Pray for Godly affection and divine direction
SHOW THEM GOOD EXAMPLE
Let your own marriage be a good example of what a good and Godly home should be that your Children will look forward to building a good home by all means.
As your Children grows teach them about good friendship, relationship, and Marriage. Teach them about Godly choice-making and pure Courtship. This will prepare them adequately for marital choice making.
Make sure your Children are rightly located. Live in a righteous environment, let them go to Godly schools and keep Godly friends, their spouses will come from their environment and people they meet, help them to be in the company of good people
You also need to train your Children about Godly Character, responsible living, hospitality, friendship, teamwork, partnership, and Godly manners. People with Godly character always attract good people, when your Children behave well you are only setting them up for Godly choice making.
Tell them how you choose, tell them stories of those that chose wrongly and their results.
Correct them when they are going wrong, rebuke if need be, don’t be afraid to curb their excesses, when a Child lives without control it is a set up against his or her destiny
GET BOOKS FOR THEM
let them read quality books about Godly choice-making, love, Courtship, and preparation for marriage.
I recommend you get the following books written by us for them:
Wisdom for choosing a life partner
Is he the one for me
Is she the one for me
32 guys and ladies you must never marry
32 ways to know true love
Preparing for marriage
MAKE THEM ATTEND MARRIAGE SEMINARS
Encourage your children to attend good marriage seminars
ENROL THEM IN A MARRIAGE SCHOOL
You can also enroll your children in our marriage school( College of Marital Success)
Monitor them as they choose, ask them questions, pray with them, counsel them and stand with them as they make this life long decision.
The best way to influence your children as they try to choose a life partner is to be their friend. Don’t just be a Parent be a Friend.