11 GOOD THINGS THAT CAN DESTROY A GOOD MARRIAGE
There are good things that can destroy a good marriage. You need them but they can also destroy your marriage if you don’t handle them with wisdom and balance.
1: YOUR JOB
A good marriage can be destroyed by work and career. You need a work-life balance. If you don’t balance your work and your family life, you will destroy your home and you will only have yourself to blame.
Your ambition, what you desire to be, who you desire to be, what you desire to have and do can end up hurting your marriage if they are not wisely handled. Many good marriages have been destroyed on the altar of someone’s ambition. You must never allow your own ambition to destroy the life of your spouse and your marriage.
Money is good, you need it at home you need it in your marriage, you need it for a better life but if you don’t handle it very well it can destroy your home. Never pursue money and leave your family behind, never allow the love of money to get into your head at any time in your journey in life. Don’t be greedy of money, don’t be stingy with it, don’t be extravagant, handle money with wisdom, money can destroy a good marriage.
4: YOUR PHONE
Many are addicted to their phones today, they are glue to it as if they were born with it, they chat till the wee hours of the day and they wake up to continue their foolishness. Many are with their spouses in bed but are hundreds of miles away from him or her. Don’t let phone destroy your marriage, put it aside and be a good husband and wife.
There is hardly what you can do today without the internet. But you must not allow the internet to take over your life and ruin it. Be careful of porn, be careful of occult site, be careful about betting sites, each of them can ruin you.
Many couples in good marriages carelessly got their marriages destroyed because of the wrong way they handled the television in their homes. Television should not be in your bedroom, kick it out, get it out now. The bedroom is not a cinema. It is a place of prayer, romance, sleep, rest and sex. It is your headquarters, don’t get in another person on the screen.
Television can also destroy your marriage if you are addicted to it and neglect your spouse.
Having friends around you is good, it is cool to be among your friends. But friendship can hurt and destroy your marriage if you have bad friends. If your friends hate your spouse or hate marriage, if your friends encourage you to be unfaithful in your marriage and if they encourage you to fight your spouse. Bad friends are like cancer in a marriage, it is either you kill them or they kill your marriage.
8: PARENTING WORK
One of the joys of marriage is to have your own children, how sweet it is to hold a newborn baby. The smell, the tenderness, the feeling is great if the baby is yours, it is a prayer answered. But if not wisely handled parenting work can destroy marriage. If you give all your attention to it and neglect your marriage. If you put all your love and hope on your children and make your spouse feel as if he does not exist
9: MINISTRY WORK
Working for God is good and fantastic. It is one of the most important things you must do in life. You have got to work for God and enjoy it. But this work must be done in tandem and agreement with your spouse. You must agree on it and even be involved in it together. Never put ministry work ahead of your family life because your family life is a work of ministry.
10: LEISURE ACTIVITIES
Your hobby, your playfulness, your leisure activities are good and part of life and good for your health. But they can hurt your marriage. Who you want to hang out with and how you describe the pleasure, and where you get it can deeply affect your marriage, that is why you must have leisure that is godly and must include your spouse.
11: SEXUAL INTIMACY
Sexual relationship is meant to make a good marriage stronger. It is a positive pleasure that your body needs. But if you get this pleasure outside your home, it will ruin your marriage. If you deny your spouse of sexual enjoyment it will also hurt your home deeply. Sex is something you must get right in your marriage. You need to do it only with your mate and do it regularly, joyfully, romantically, affectionately, practically, communicatively, progressively in the sacredness of your marriage.