Dating world can be a challenging place. It can be just as tough to date someone who just got out of a long term relationship as it can be to date someone who has been single for a long time. Being single means being yourself and not having to answer to anybody. It can be tough to adjust when someone new is on the scene.
Here are the signs to note if you’re dating a girl who has been single for a while:
1. A WOMAN WHO WAS SINGLE MIGHT BE STUBBORN
She’s spent quite a bit of time being single and having to do things on her own. She hasn’t had to share anything with anyone and it may seem to her like you are invading her space or encroaching on her territory.
Whether this is real or imagined, she will need time to lower her guard and come to see you as a partner. Don’t be surprised if she is rigid or stubborn at first.
2. SHE MIGHT SEEM TOUGH TO CATCH
A single woman has to project strength otherwise she may be vulnerable to others in her life. That doesn’t just mean other men: it could be coworkers, friends, or relatives.
Be patient and understanding. Let things go at a pace that is comfortable for her. Her outward toughness is something she’s needed to get through life by herself.
3. SHE WON’T WANT TO TAKE THINGS TOO FAST
Don’t think that it’s because she doesn’t like you; she does.
However she has gotten so used to the idea of doing things at her speed and at her pace that jumping into something serious might seem fast for her. Give her time.
4. HER FRIENDS ARE REALLY GOING TO MAKE SURE THAT YOU’RE UP FOR THE TASK OF BEING WITH HER.
Her friends know what she’s been through. They know that she is deserving of so much more than what she has been getting. And so you can expect them to really grill you. They will want to make sure that you don’t hurt her the way that she has been hurt so many times before. They will try to safeguard her weak and fragile heart.
5. SHE ISN’T GOING TO BE SO WILLING TO ADJUST HER DAILY ROUTINE FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP RIGHT AWAY.
She has grown accustomed to living her life a certain way. She is used to conducting herself in a certain manner. And so you can’t expect her to change everything up just because she happens to be dating you now. You’re going to have to give her time to adapt herself to who you are and what the relationship really needs her to be.
6. SHE’LL RESIST YOU DOING THINGS FOR HER
It’s not your fault.
She has spent so long taking care of herself that she may not see an immediate need for you to do things for her. Or, she’ll simply be more comfortable doing them herself.
Ease into helping her with things and don’t be surprised if she throws up roadblocks. Remember, it may take time for her to see you as a partner.
7. SHE IS GOING TO CONSIDER HER FRIENDS AND FAMILY TO BE MAJOR PARTS OF HER LIFE.
For the longest time, she has had to rely on only her family and friends for social interaction. She has had to rely on them for strong and intimate relationships and emotional connections. And just because you’re in her life now doesn’t mean that she’s automatically going to drop these people for you.
8. DESPITE BEING TOUGH ON THE OUTSIDE SHE CAN BE AFRAID
Even though she projects a tough persona she will be afraid of becoming vulnerable and allowing someone new into her life. Unless you really do know her story you don’t know what her past has been like (everyone has one).
She may have been hurt in the past or she may be cautious about being in love or even loved at all. Talk with her, and go at her pace.
9. SHE IS GOING TO ENJOY DOING COUPLE OF THINGS WITH YOU EVEN THOUGH SHE MIGHT NOT ACT LIKE IT.
She secretly wants to enjoy doing all of the couple things that a lot of people in relationships do – because she has never really had the chance to authentically experience these things for herself. And so while she may not act like she’s excited, deep in her heart, it’s all she ever really wants.
10. SHE WILL QUESTION YOUR MOTIVES, EVEN IF YOU ARE FORTHCOMING
We all know the horror stories of the women who have been tricked or hurt. She also may adopt the same suspicions her friends have toward you. Bringing you into her life and stepping into yours is a huge change from her normal routine.
Being single for so long has taught her to figure things out for herself and she will examine everything that you do. Be forthcoming and reassuring. Most importantly, don’t do anything to betray her trust.
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